'Breaking up is hard to do' the classic lyric first coined by Neil Sedaka way before The Carpenters. What happens when you don't want to break up? Usually there is that stage of panic, where you drive the other person further away. Unfortunately for most people everything we do to try to get our ex's back actually ends up working against us. Although it's easy to let our emotions and feelings of possible loss get the best of us during this scary time, it's important to remain calm.
Remaining calm can be the most helpful tip to getting your ex back. If you panic and get clingy you will only drive your significant other further away. This goes the same for men and women. When you get into that panic, 'don't leave me mode' you are only reinforcing the other person that leaving you is the right thing to do.
When you begin behaving irrationally and emotionally, you seem desperate. Nobody wants to be with someone who seems desperate. The key to getting your ex back is remaining calm, cool and collected. If you are desperately and emotionally trying to get your ex back, it doesn't matter how much they still care about you. A desperate person is like somebody with the plague! They still love and care about you, but goodness, please don't get near them like that! It's infectious.
Okay, so first thing is first. Stay calm and accept what your partner is telling you. If they say it's over, then it's over. (I didn't say that you won't be able to get them back.) This is a very important part of getting your ex back. Your ex wants to see that you are on the same page as they are, only then can you begin to mend.
To a certain extent, no matter who you are, your boyfriend or girlfriend is expecting you to pitch a temper tantrum. When you don't, you become an enigma. They thought they knew everything about you, but look at how mature you are, accepting things. This raises your value in their eyes. Also, they are a little shocked that you wouldn't put up more of a fight. This also works in your favor.
The important thing to remember when trying to get your ex back is not to panic. Always remain calm. Being calm and accepting of the situation will make you more desirable in your ex's eyes. Maybe you've already panicked, blew up the cell with texts, Facebook slammed them. No big deal, damage control is easy if you begin now. Stay cool and collected to win back your ex.
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